After taking engagement photos, wedding and reception photos, many brides may wonder what is the point of a bridal portrait. I honestly can't say I blame you when you put it that way. However, coming from a photographer, here is what I think:
A scheduled Bridal Portrait is the only time a bride will be able to get things just right without feeling rushed or tired at some point in the day. It is a relaxed atmosphere where makeup, hair, dress and location all align as one to produce the absolute best version of the bride. Bridal portraits are for the brides that want something a little extra and special for them and only them. These portraits allow a bride to take a breath and enjoy this special time, without all the hustle and bustle of planning. It allows them to sit in that "pocket" of, "Hey, I'm getting married." There is no fiancé present. All of the bridesmaids and other special people in the bridal party are not there. You are not sitting down trying to eat with a mouth full of food either. It's just the bride and the photographer and perhaps, depending on the location, maybe a passerby or two who remarks on how lovely she truly is. I absolutely love doing bridal portraits. That one on one interaction with my bride strengthens the trust she has put in me to capture her story. And seeing how she is very much the main part of the story, I include these portrait sessions in some of my packages. It is just that important.
So for the bride that wants something extra, my advice, is go for it! Schedule that bridal session. True there are some great photographers out there that will charge extra for a photograph that is beautiful. However, in my humble opinion it should be something included in your package. A photographer needs you as much as you need them. So don't pay extra if you don't have to.
Self motivation. This is something that anyone, regardless of age, at any point in their life can use. I am not an expert by any means but I know enough about it at this point in my life to identify a few things that work. So let's give it a whirl! And don't forget to comment and let me know what you think or what works for you!
1. Positive Attitude - Yes we've all heard this before time and time again but it bears repeating. A positive attitude will take you farther than a negative or doubting one ever will. Staying positive can be difficult at times but it is well worth it to see the brighter side of things. Even when certain situations do not turn out in your favor, the right attitude will help you to push through them. Having the right outlook can build your determination to continue in spite of setbacks. Stay positive folks! Even your worst day only last 24 hours!
2. Find Encouragement In Odd Places - Um...like...where??? Self motivators do not always have to find the encouragement from within. On the other hand, it may not always come from other people. Encouragement can be found in the simplest of places. What a self motivator will do is find a way to take a situation, place or event and translate that into encouragement. For instance, how often do we recharge ourselves? Take some time to sit in a quiet place and rest. You will find that you have not only renewed energy but that energy will support you and give you the confidence needed to continue. Which happens to be the confidence you may have been lacking while you were a little tired and rundown. Another example: Have you been to a recent luncheon, meet and greet, seminar? Were there any take away points you could use for yourself? Well, USE THEM. Do not just jot a note down and forget about it. Try to implement it as soon as possible. That will keep your motivation high and thriving.
3. Remind Yourself of Why - Why did you start? It was no doubt something that you were passionate about at the time. You owe it to yourself to see it through. Keep reminding yourself of the benefits that you identified at the outset of your journey. Keep them in front of you. Place sticky notes on the bathroom mirror if you have to. But never forget why you are doing what you're doing. After all, most people will not remind you to be great. So you have to have your own back on this one in order to continue motivating yourself.
4. Identify Your Main Goal - That's right! The Big Kahuna! The light at the end of the tunnel. Where you want to be. So what is it? What is your goal? Let's list some popular ones:
5. Set Measurable Goals to Help You Along the Way - So now you have decided what your main goal is, it's a good idea to set smaller goals to help you achieve that goal. Stepping stones are a great way to get from point A to B. But how to do you keep your motivation high? Go ahead a pencil in some backup plans. Let's be realistic here. In a perfect world all goals would be achieved on time in orderly fashion. However, life is not perfect and at times along the way we have to reevaluate our goals to see if they are putting us closer to the main goal. Most of the time they are. But sometimes they do not. So tweak them. And do so quickly. Failing to take charge of the situation quickly will leave you in a rut and your motivation could die out. Identify the issue and partner with your "positive attitude" mentioned at the outset and move forward.
***Bonus Point*** Motivate Others in Your Process - Yes, take some time to put focus on others who could use motivation. How does that help your motivation? Accountability. When you motivate someone else to achieve a goal it makes you feel accountable to achieving your own. I have never seen a fitness coach motivate someone else by sitting on the couch and watching from a safe distance. They are right in there. So get involved. Find someone with similar interest (or different) and motivate them. Tell them they can do it. The more you hear yourself saying it, the more you will motivate yourself towards your own goals. Don't believe me? Try it and let me know what happens.
Who is Lucy Lee? - Under a pseudonym, my niece, has recently started to document her journey by blogging. It's so hard for me not to give too much away because I'm really proud of what she is doing. So I am restraining myself so my followers/readers can let her tell her own story about PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome). If you love to read and need inspiration for dealing with what life throws at you, check out her journey. She is a great writer and has a wisdom beyond her years. Lucy Lee has just entered her 20s. Life is supposed to be great, right? Well, life is what you make it. And Lucy Lee is taking charge of her life and making it into what she wants. The sky is the limit for this young and bright talent. Check her out: www.lucyleebeatspolly.com